‘I’m not paying for that’: Financial abuse is awfully common


WHEN Lauren Harry locked her keys in the family car, her husband yelled at her but that wasn’t all. The screaming and obsessive questioning went on all night as he refused her sleep as punishment.

The keys were an honest mistake, one everyone at some time or another has probably done. But simple mistake is all it ever took.

Both Lauren* and her husband Michael* were on big salaries and lived in a comfortable city apartment but despite this, Lauren was a victim of violent domestic and financial abuse at the hand of her husband.

“Why do you need to buy that?” And “I’m not paying for that,” were common phrases Lauren would hear and they’d turn a short trip up the shops into humiliation in front of sales staff.

“I became so depressed and in the end was scared for my life. He is just so obsessed with money.”

Lauren is an educated woman and has been a high salary earner. But that was before years of financial bullying and violence shattered her emotional wellbeing and confidence.

These days she’s now broke but happy to be divorced and free from her abuser.

It’s estimated that two million Australian women are victims of financial abuse and domestic abuse at the hands of a partner or another family member.

(Read full report here.)

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